Good mailing list tool?
I have a mailing list of about 11K users, to which I send announcements from time to time (new version notifications, etc).
I have heard that http://www.boogietools.com/ is very good.
I have been using mailman ( http://www.list.org/ ). I found it rather cluncky and slow, but it sort of got the job done.
Just me (Sir to you)
I am not sure if Boogie is producing mailing list tools yet. But there are several nice services that will do most of what you need as a service provider. But if you insist on running most of it off your network/cohost you might try Lyris. Lyris has branched off into list management for small business and big business so I don't really know what their lower cost options are.
Boogie tools basically handles bounces only (using an API you can use to filter incoming mail in the SMTP for Windows 2000 mail receiving stage or as an check-the-bounce-mail-box pop3 processing stage). That's only one phase of list management (very important phase I grant you that).
I've used http://www.getactive.com and except for a slightly weird interface, it's done great.
I believe Joel uses WhatCounts.com. If you have a large list consider not using your own SMTP server. Even if you have "good" confirmed subscription policies, you may get people who don't remember signing up, and who then report you to SpamCop.
Any language. Have the unsubscriber update a database or edit the mailing list file.
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